#InspireMonday with Dr Gbenga Adebayo

Happy Monday!

I have had some very interesting comments from last week’s post on “What Women Want“. Thanks to everyone that took the time reach out to say what they thought. Your contributions are appreciated. Today, we are to going look at the other side of the coin. We are going to be looking at what men want.

Most men in loving relationships majorly want just 3 things:

  1. Unconditional Respect: I think this is the number 1 need of most men in loving relationships: the need to feel respected. And importantly, this respect is to be unconditional. In reality, respect should be earned. It should be predicated on the actions or inaction of a person. However, men in relationships desire to be respected and honored irrespective of their current standing: broke or rich, jobless or gainfully employed, handsome or ugly. Even when they happen to be factually incorrect, they still want to be respected. Happy are you if you can make your husband assured of your unconditional respect and devotion. Someone said to me many years ago that their is a king and a fool in every man, whoever it is you speak to will respond to you.
  2. Good Sex on Demand (Before Demand Better): Generally speaking, men have and demonstrate a higher sex drive than women. Of course some women have a higher sex drive than their partners. However, men generally demonstrate a higher sexual drive in relationships than women. I have facilitated in a number of Intimacy Workshops and the reality I have found is that majority of men in those workshops wished their they had better sex more often.
  3. Good Food: I must confess I didn’t initially think this was a need of many men. However that old adage is true (for many) that “..the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Not minding a minority of us (including myself) that don’t care much for food, most men want good meals.

That is it. Those are the 3 things I think most men want. Kings have been recorded to offer up to half of their kingdoms to women on account of these 3 things combined. Wise women have ruled many a man using these 3.

Final Words

I have made an assumption in listing the things I think Husbands and Wives want. A critical assumption. There is a gaping hole in everyone that cannot be filled by anyone but by the Creator. If you are not saved, you will have a longing in your heart no one can fill. Jesus still saves!

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